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An Emotional Couple of Days

Published July 30, 2014 by megchristo

On Tuesday, we knew we had a big day ahead of us. We knew it wouldn’t be an easy day. Even though we knew this, we were not prepared for the emotional punch in the stomach. I thought it would not be as shocking this time. I was wrong.

The day started by us going to finalize the adoption at the registration office and notary office. We then took a van with just our family, our photographer friend Renee Booe, and our guide Vivian to Bo and Elle’s city, Luoyang. Their city is know for their peonies. Someday I would love to travel back for their peony festival. Luoyang is less crowded, and has more trees then Zhengzhou. Our first stop was the passport office. From there, we headed to the orphanage. Elle was excited to see her old friends. The orphanage had moved since we had been there for Elle. It is in a much nicer building that was bigger and brighter. When we first pulled into the courtyard, there was a sweet little pond, and around it was about 15 children under the age of three and their nannies. Across the courtyard was Maria’s Big House of Hope. Neither Elle nor Bo were taken care of there, but they do great work. We then went inside to see Elle and Bo’s caregivers and their friends that haven’t been adopted yet. The nannies were happy to see Elle and Bo had the same family. They couldn’t believe how tall and strong Elle was. They committed on her long hair and summer tan. :). Next we went into their classroom, and meet three of children that are still waiting for their families to find them. One boy was blind, one had Down syndrome, and one was in a wheel chair because he didn’t have legs. They all were so sweet! Renee was taken by the little boy in the wheel chair. He really wanted his picture taken, but we were told we could not take pictures of the children. The boy who was blind started speaking to me in Chinese. I asked Vivian what he was saying. She said he was asking when his mama and baba were going to come for him? The nannies said they were still looking for his mother and father. I loved hugging and talking to the little boy with Down syndrome. Bo handed his friends ring pops. They loved them, and Bo was proud to give them out.

When we headed down stairs there were probably 40 or more children all under the age of 4 in the lobby. They all called out “Zhi Er!”, which is Bo’s Chinese name. Sweetness! I asked if I could give them suckers. The nannies said yes, and then I was surrounded by them. They all ran up to me with their arms out crying , “mama.” It was emotional. Gabe and I went around to the children that couldn’t walk to unwrap and give them suckers too. One older boy wanted to hug on Gabe. It was so sweet. Then some more children ran up wanting me to hold them. Bo then stepped in between us, and pushed them away. He hugged my legs turned to them and declared, “my mama!” in Chinese. It melted my heart to see him understand I was his, and he didn’t want to share. At this point Elle was wanting to leave too. She was clinging to me, and the excitement of seeing her old nannies had worn off. When we stepped outside of the doors, Elle started crying. I looked at Renee and MJ, and we all cried. Once we were in the van Gabe started crying too. We all just looked at each other with hopelessness in our eyes. By the time we were back to the hotel, Gabe was saying he doesn’t want biological children because then he can adopt more. :). He is amazing. I love that kid’s heart!

The next morning we went to breakfast. Renee, MJ, and I all kind of stared at each other. We were without words. We emotionally felt like our souls had gone 10 rounds with Rocky. We tried to rally, but spent most of the day in a state of shock and exhaustion.

Bo is doing better than we could ask for. He is trusting us, showing us more of his personality every hour, starting to say a few English words like happy, bye bye, and potty. He is doing all of this with an upset tummy. He is a trooper!

Today we will rally. We are going to go to an ancient temple, and watch a Kung Fu show. Today I will focus on the moment, and enjoy everything.

I know I have said this before. Please if you have ever considered adoption, consider it again. I promise there is room in your heart, and the hearts of your children. I would be happy to talk with anyone about our experiences and the process.

May today be filled with beauty and love!

Oh My Heart!!!

Published July 28, 2014 by megchristo

Finally….Bo is in our arms. He makes my heart pitter patter! He is so cute, sweet, and loving! His personality is curious, sweet, and mischievous. I love how he knows his own mind. When we were walking over to sign paperwork, I went to pick him up. He shook his head, and sat down. He then offered me his hand. He was definitely telling me, “Mama…I am a big boy. I can walk.” I love his spirit!

Now to talk about the day. This morning we boarded the bus to head to the registration office. Once there we had to wait almost two hours for Bo to arrive. He was the very last one to come. I was pacing anxiously waiting for him. When I saw his adorable face, I melted. I was so happy and relieved and in love. He never cried. He looked scared and confused, but stayed strong! He is such a brave boy!

Tonight we went to Walmart, and he loved picking out new Pleasant Goat toys and new shoes. He wanted to hold all of it. He is already calling me Mama, MJ Baba, and Gabe GaGa. Elle is still unnamed. Awwwww!!!

Now for the gut wrenching part of the story. Bo has huge scars everywhere. I am not sure I have ever seen scars so large. They are on his head, neck, chest, arm, and legs. I wasn’t going to mention them to the guides because what’s the point. However they noticed them, and immediately called the orphanage workers. The workers said that he came with them. Then they called back and said they weren’t sure. We will never know the truth. Gabe is really upset about this. He is demanding justice. Someone must pay! How could anyone do that? We tried to calm him down as best as we could even though it broke our heart too. His past is his past. We can’t change it. We can only change his future.

We are totally and completely in love with Bo….all of us. ❤️

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It’s 3:00 am, and I can’t sleep

Published July 27, 2014 by megchristo

Here I am in a hotel in Zhengzhou, China….just a few hours until we finally have our arms around Bo, and I can’t sleep. I am wondering how the other adoptive families on our trip are doing. Are they sleeping sound in their beds with visions of sugar plums dancing through their heads? I wish I was in the land of nod, but I am not…so I will blog instead. The anticipation is making my heart beat so hard and so fast. I think I am experiencing every emotion possible!

Tonight for the first time on the trip Elle woke up at about 1:00 am with nightmares. I held her, reassured her that I was here, and how much I loved her. In a moment that melted my heart, she also insisted on seeing MJ who was sleeping in the bed next to us. MJ woke up too, and Elle went over to his bed for hugs and reassurance. MJ hugged on her, and told her how much he loved her. This moment was so precious wrapped in its own history of tragedy. 18 months ago Elle wouldn’t even look at MJ. Now she needs his reassurance of love as much as she needs mine. Wow! I love love and the power of love! Then she crawled back into bed with me, wrapped her arms around me, and let out a content sigh. Next she said, “Mommy, I love you all day long.” I said, “Elle, I have always loved you, and will always love you.” She then kissed me, and drifted off. Since that time I have laid here thinking and wondering about Bo. How long will it take him to return my feelings of love?

Since I have some time on my hands, I will catch you up on Gabe’s view of China. Watching Gabe absorb China and the culture has been so fun. He has helped MJ and I appreciate everything more. He is a chatter box about what he is seeing, and his perspective on it. Gabe actually enjoys the fact that people come up and want our picture. He likes that EVERYONE is staring at us all the time. I think it has helped increase my patience with all of that. I am so glad he came along, and the best parts of the trip are still yet to come! Luckily another family brought their 9 year old son, and he and Gabe have become fast friends. They are never bored. They are always making the best of our waits and drives places, so it has worked out beautifully.

Elle has been so good, and such a trooper so far. It is very hot here, and we have had days packed with walking. She hasn’t asked to be carried at all. She keeps up with the group, and has kept her spunky, happy attitude. However she is horrified by the squatty potty. Every time we have to use one she declares very loudly how disgusting it is. Every time it makes me giggle. She used squatty potties for years, and now doesn’t seem to remember it at all. In fact, I had to reteach her the art of the squatty potty. She still thinks it is disgusting.

Today we meet our new friend Renee Booe. She flew in from Japan to photograph our adoption process. What a gift! You can follow her on Facebook or on Instagram. On FB, she is Renee Booe Photography. On Instagram it is @spuronlove. Renee is super sweet, and I feel like I have known her for years already. Elle acts like she is her long lost aunt. It’s amazing!

We are so close to Bo now! I will try to sneak in a couple more hours of sleep. Please keep us all in your thoughts and prayers! I will post pics of Bo ASAP!

To My Sweet Bo

Published July 23, 2014 by megchristo

It has been 18 months since we took this same journey to adopt your sisters. It has been two years since we saw your file for the first time. It was two years ago that we said, “No. We don’t think we can handle it.” Then four months later we saw you in the orphanage. I will never forget your shy smile and wave. It has been 10 months since we started this journey back to adopt you. What started as agreeing to host you over the holidays led us to knowing you were our son. My heart knew it all along. It was our brains we had to convince. Here we come Bo! Ready or not! It won’t be long now.

Love,
Mama
xoxoxo

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In a Little Over a Week…..

Published July 20, 2014 by megchristo

In a little over a week, we will have Bo Hansen Zhi Christofferson in our arms forever. I have been dreaming of the moment I will finally be able to love on him for months now. Besides hugging him, kissing him, holding him, and telling him I am his mama, I will tell him I am sorry it took me so long. It has felt like an eternity to me, and I wonder how it has felt for him.

The craziest thing about this is that our Gotcha Day with Bo is exactly 18 months to the day that we had our Gotcha Day with the girls. I mean exactly 18 months. It took us 18 months to find our courage, and know that we could return to China to adopt our beautiful son. Why is it so hard to follow your heart? Why is it always so scary…even when you know it is the absolute right thing? Since the moment I saw Bo’s picture, I knew he was our son. I knew I loved him with my whole heart. I knew he belonged as a Christofferson. I tried to ignore it, but fate knew it was to be. Fate made it impossible for me to forget this little boy.

On Wednesday we will begin our physical journey to Bo. I know the closer I get the more nervous and anxious I will get. I know that he is my son, but does he know that I am his mama? How long will it take for him to trust and love me? Will he be my little shadow like Elle was, or will he be happy going between both MJ and me? How long will it take for me to hear his precious little voice? When will I see his smile? Will he remember Elle? Will Elle remember any of the language?

I hope to be able to blog again while we are in China, so I can keep you up to date on our journey. I can’t wait to share with you pictures of Bo, and stories of how he is doing. I may even have Gabe do a post to get his perspective on the trip. I can’t wait to see how this will shape Gabe’s heart.

A special shout out to Sean Flanery, Jo Christofferson,  Jenny Chen, and Grace Carlson who are helping us hold the fort down while we are gone. I know everything and everyone will be in great hands! Thank you also to my great friends Julie and Heidi for offering to help bring meals and such. I am sure Sean will love not having to cook every night. 🙂 THANK YOU!!!

Please keep us all in your thoughts and prayers! Thank you!!! ❤